Saturday, January 5, 2013

Miscarriage Resources

Miscarriages, unfortunately, are not really talked about.

So not only do I feel alone in my pain, I also have one of those awkward subjects that everyone avoids.

This made me curious as to what is out there for those of us that face pregnancy loss.

The first article that I found is from This website is chalk full of resources for all things baby. I feel like the article was a great place to start. They give you links to connect with their groups as well as offer simple steps that can be taken to help.

Also from BabyCenter, I found a helpful article on how to talk to preschool children about the loss. I really appreciated that they mentioned telling your child that you will be sad for a while and that it is ok. Kaylee had just figured out that I was pregnant when we lost the baby and so she has had tons of questions. Some have been hard to answer. I like that this article gave some great tips on how to answer the tough questions.

This article had some things in it that I didn't agree with, but I liked that it expressed exactly how I have been feeling. Specifically, "The grief you're feeling is real — no matter how early in pregnancy you experienced the loss of a baby, you'll feel that loss deeply. Even if you never saw your baby, you knew that he or she was growing inside of you, and you formed a bond; however abstract the attachment, you felt it."

The next article gave specific tips on how to cope. I personally think they are good tips. At least the first two. One of my close friends actually had already suggested getting a piece of jewelry to help me grieve. She also suggested getting a Christmas ornament to honor the baby as well. I finally ordered my necklace this morning and I am so glad that I did. One of my fears is that I will forget this baby with time. The necklace has the birthstone of my baby's due date and the due date engraved on the back. On the front, it will say "Forever In My Heart". This way I have something to help me remember.

The best article from the husband's perspective that I have found is here. I connected with a lot of what he said and I loved his practical list on helping his wife grieve.

This is one blog that I found therapeutic to read through.

One of the reasons I decided to share about my miscarriage on my blog is in hopes that through my struggle with it, I can help someone else. Even if it is just to be able to read something that they can relate to. Because like I said in the beginning, it is a topic that is kept secret. And it helps knowing that others have endured the same heartache and that I am not alone.


  1. Love you. I do know how you feel and also know that God uses our losses in mighty ways. Still praying for you.

  2. Having a miscarriage is very sad. I know how you feel. I had a miscarriage before Joel was born. I really had a rough time. It was nice that friends ad family were there for me. We were going to name the baby Elijah or Elyzabeth. I never got to know if the baby was a boy or girl. So, I named the baby Baby E. I believe he/she is in heaven. Due to me loosing the baby at Christmas time a dear friend said to honor the memory is to donate something special to the church. I noticed our church needed a new nativity set for the table in the foyer. Every year we put it up. I still tear up to this day, but I know he/she is with the Lord. My knows about Baby E. Someday when I get a mother's ring both Joel and Baby E will be on it.
    My prayers are with you Krista, Adam, and the girls. If you ever need to talk I am here for you.

  3. I lost my baby about 9 years ago, mommies never forgot. I felt silly for having hard time with a miscarriage. I knew others that went full-term and then lost the baby so I tried to convince myself that my loss wasn't as great and it wasn't a big deal. It is a big deal.

    I have a new peace about it since reading "Heaven Is For Real" where the boy talks about seeing the other sister that the parents had miscarried years before. I look forward to holding my little one someday but in the meantime I squeeze the babies I have been blessed with extra tight.

    Love you and praying for you.

  4. It's hard to communicate the ache that's in my heart right now. I want to hug you and make the pain go away. Sadly that's not how it works. Instead I offer my ear for listening, my shoulder for leaning upon, & my prayers to consistently & persistently petition Abba for peace, grace & healing for you & Adam. I love you, Kiddo.

  5. Sorry Krista. I know how much you wanted this child. Rebecca Redelman

  6. I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. You and your family are in my prayers. I'm working from home now, so if you ever want to meet up during the day with the girls just to get out, please don't hesitate to let me know. - Julie Chambers

  7. I am so very sorry to hear this Krista! My heart aches for you! I haven't faced this, but I know of a blogger friend mom who has, she has written on her blog at under loss. She suffer a miscarriage last year. She became preganant again about 4 months later, but she shares hoe she coped with her heartache. Thought I would let you know.

    1. this is the link to the blog that I was talking about! hope you read it! I think that you will find comfort in it! She is a Christian, who during her heartache grew stronger through God, hope you read it!


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