Miscarriage Resources

Miscarriages, unfortunately, are not really talked about.

So not only do I feel alone in my pain, I also have one of those awkward subjects that everyone avoids.

This made me curious as to what is out there for those of us that face pregnancy loss.

The first article that I found is from BabyCenter.com. This website is chalk full of resources for all things baby. I feel like the article was a great place to start. They give you links to connect with their groups as well as offer simple steps that can be taken to help.

Also from BabyCenter, I found a helpful article on how to talk to preschool children about the loss. I really appreciated that they mentioned telling your child that you will be sad for a while and that it is ok. Kaylee had just figured out that I was pregnant when we lost the baby and so she has had tons of questions. Some have been hard to answer. I like that this article gave some great tips on how to answer the tough questions.

This article had some things in it that I didn't agree with, but I liked that it expressed exactly how I have been feeling. Specifically, "The grief you're feeling is real — no matter how early in pregnancy you experienced the loss of a baby, you'll feel that loss deeply. Even if you never saw your baby, you knew that he or she was growing inside of you, and you formed a bond; however abstract the attachment, you felt it."

The next article gave specific tips on how to cope. I personally think they are good tips. At least the first two. One of my close friends actually had already suggested getting a piece of jewelry to help me grieve. She also suggested getting a Christmas ornament to honor the baby as well. I finally ordered my necklace this morning and I am so glad that I did. One of my fears is that I will forget this baby with time. The necklace has the birthstone of my baby's due date and the due date engraved on the back. On the front, it will say "Forever In My Heart". This way I have something to help me remember.

The best article from the husband's perspective that I have found is here. I connected with a lot of what he said and I loved his practical list on helping his wife grieve.

This is one blog that I found therapeutic to read through.

One of the reasons I decided to share about my miscarriage on my blog is in hopes that through my struggle with it, I can help someone else. Even if it is just to be able to read something that they can relate to. Because like I said in the beginning, it is a topic that is kept secret. And it helps knowing that others have endured the same heartache and that I am not alone.